Some parents have a deep desire to feel needed by their children – others do not. If you know me at all, you can guess what category I fall under!
I don’t like to do for my kids what they are capable of doing for themselves. Sure, I teach them and help them along the way, but for the most part, I strive to teach them independence. Yes, that means I’m working to be less needed in their lives and that may be totally contrary to most parents. I want them to be able to make their bed, even if it doesn’t look as nice as when I do it. I want them to do their laundry, even if that means some of the clothes are wrinkled by the time they’re worn next. And I want them to manage their homework even if they miss a problem or two. Yes, I have to step in and correct and assist and make sure they’re on task. But they can do it – they’re fully capable and they’ve proven it over and over again.
And when I walk outside and see Hunter picking the oranges and then making juice for the family I’m reminded how awesome it is to have capable and independent kids. And I’m even more grateful he’s doing it outside because it is extremely sticky! 🙂